Characteristics of the people of Paradise– 3:134

A perfect world.

The “every man’s dream”.

Allah swt promises us this perfect world and tells us about “….a garden as wide as the heavens and earth, prepared for the righteous” (Surah Ale Imran 3:133)

The magnificent creation made for us by Our Lord.

Our merciful Lord tells us the characteristics we need to reach this splendid place,in the next verse

“Who spend [in the cause of Allah ] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good,” (Surah Ale Imran 3 :134)

But we need to beware of Shaitan and his tricks which are aimed at us falling short of being the people of Paradise.

Let’s see what they are and what tricks shaitan can play on us :

1. “spend [in the cause of Allah ] during ease and hardship” 3:134

The primary context that comes to our mind when we read this verse is our wealth.

But, Allah swt wants us to think more deeply as He uses the word “anfaq (spend)” in this verse and not “amwaal (wealth)” here.

Our time,resources, intelligence,beneficial knowledge, good manners are all part of our provision from Allah swt.

When we have the time, we visit the sick,are cordial to people, share the news of deals in the market, but when we are pressed for time,or going through a tough period in our lives, what do we do? We stop calling people, get irritable. when we feel that the sales are few, we don’t share the news with others, lest we lose out on the good stuff.

How much time,money,resources would we lose in making a quick call, or dropping a message or smiling even while rushing?A warm quick hug , donuts for the kids, sharing just one useful information on Facebook , putting one dollar instead of 5 in the donation box.

We must constantly strive to ‘spend” of our provisions as ” the most beloved of deeds to him was a righteous deed which a person persists in doing, even if it is something small.”(Ibn Majah : Vol. 1, Book 37, Hadith 4237)

But shaitan tries to trick us by trying his best to delude us painting the false picture of poverty(Surah Baqarah 2:268), or by trying to worry us about losing precious time.

Allah swt calls spending in His way a “loan to Him”, and He says , ” Who is it that would loan Allah swt a goodly loan so He may multiply it for him many times over? And it is Allah swt who withholds and grants abundance, and to Him you will be returned.” (Surah Baqarah 2:245)

2.“restrain anger ” 3:134

To understand the depth of this characteristic, let’s see what these words in arabic mean.

“Kazim” literally means to suppress some thing, to close the mouth of a water container and “Ghaiz” means to express an anger in which the blood pressure shoots up. How we felt that surge of heat when some one made a belittling remark at us? or when some one quickly parked in our spot for which we had been patiently waiting? Or when our children just don’t seem clean up or our spouse seems inconsiderate?

There are three levels of “anger” with the lowest ranging from, just giving a “look”, to the moderate one being not smiling,and snapping back in retaliation , banging doors, yelling , stamping feet being the highest level.

Bitter words escape our mouth, wrongful actions are done by our limbs. And in the end, all that is left to gain is deep regret.

Shaitan does not want us to control our anger. He strokes our ego and fuels our emotions , so that we ,instead of letting go of that remark , we snap back in anger. Instead of moving on in that hurtful situation, we stay and fume, some times planning our revenge in anger, wasting both our time and energy.

But what does Allah swt want us to do at this time?

Allah swt wants us hold it, as His messenger (ﷺ) said, “The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger.” (Sahih al-Bukhari :Book 78, Hadith 141)

There is no sip greater in reward near Allah than the sip of anger; the servant suppresses it seeking the pleasure of Allah.” (Ibn Majah).

3.who pardon the people” – 3:134

“Afeen” in the arabic language is made up of the huroof, win , fa , wow.

These words mean, to to obliterate without any traces, forgo,forgive.

We see a beautiful selection of words by Allah swt here again. Instead of using the word “ghafireen” which means to “ protect, cover over, hide, forgive.

And forgiveness in the english language means “ the act of escaping a mistake or offense”.

The difference between the two arabic words powerfully impacts the act of the forgiveness.

Allah swt wants us not to just forgive, but to forgive in a manner, that obliterates all traces of the incident in our minds. So that we don’t hold any ill feelings in our hearts for the people who have been unjust to us.

Allah swt warns us that “…Indeed, Satan induces [dissension] among them. Indeed Satan is ever, to mankind, a clear enemy.” (Surah Al Isra :53)

Shaitan, will try to fuel our emotions of hurt,anger, sorrow by reminding us about the incident again and again.

The key lies in consciously forgiving the person ,doing once’s best not to let oneself dwell in that incident and focusing on the reward that one gets for doing this.

“..and let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.” (Surah An Nur: 22)

Allah swt loves those people who forgive and HE forgives them their sins.

What can be better than His love and His forgiveness?

What we have to contemplate about is, “ what is more valuable to us, His love and forgiveness Or our anger and revenge”?

If the former is more precious to us, then the it is inconsequential whether the person deserves our anger and pardon or not.

Our Lord, forgive us our sins and the excess [committed] in our affairs and plant firmly our feet and give us victory over the disbelieving people.” 3:147

As appeared on Islamic Online University Blog (


Quran and Our Children

The quintessential needs for survival of a human being are food, clothing, shelter – and the Qur’an.
We are all born with a basic fitrah (disposition). Worshipping Allah I is embedded in our fitrah and hence the Qur’an is a basic need of our children. If we don’t fulfil it, we deprive them of something vital for their growth.
We might not be able to provide the best food for our children, or the best clothes, or a house with a back yard, but we can provide our children with the best access to the Qur’an.
How can we gather all the resources that Allah I has given us to feed the hearts of our children with the Qur’an?

1. Make du’a

The first step to attaining a goal, solving problems or completing a task is du’a. Time and again Allah I has shown in the Qur’an how the Prophets made du’a first. In the Qur’an (Al-Furqan:25-28), we are told how Musa u landed in Madyan and didn’t have a place to sleep or food to eat, and only had the clothes he was wearing. He made du’a and in the next few hours, he was provided with a job, a house to stay in and a wife.
Make these du’as abundantly for your children:
Rabbi j‘alni muqima salaaati wa min dhurriyati rabbana wa taqqabal du’a.
My Lord! Make me keep up my prayers and from my offspring (too) Our Lord! And accept my prayer (Ibrahim:40).
Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dhurriyatina qurrata a’yunin wa j’alna li lmutaqina imama
O my Lord! Grant us in our wives and our offspring the joy of our eyes and make us guides to those who guard (against evil) (Al- Furqan:74).

2. Feed your heart with the Qur’an

Build your connection with Allah I, read Qur’an, understand it
and make goals for inculcating it in your life. Children are the best
copycats and love to copy their parents. Even before you can
actively start teaching them, you will be amazed by how these
memories of you will warm their hearts and propel them closer to
the Qur’an.
Make a daily habit of reading Qur’an; enrol for classes that teach
Qur’anic tafseer. If you can’t because of your schedule now, then
at least read the translation. Share the wonders that you read in
the Qur’an with your child. Recently, I learned in my class that our
shadows prostrate to Allah I in the mornings and afternoons
(Surah Raad), which was very exciting for my six year old!

3. Build your connection with them

Before the Messenger of Allah r started teaching Anas ibn Malik
t, he built a rapport with him. He showed him how much he r
loved him and how important he was to him r. Once Anas t
was secure in his r love for him and reciprocated it, the “teaching”
became easy. This is something that I adopted in my life and I
guarantee that it works. SubhanAllah!

4. Start at home

Even before you start looking for a teacher to teach them to read
the Qur’an, or schools or programmes for Islamic learning, start at
home. We moved quite a bit, and I realized that as places, schools
and teachers changed, what remained consistent was me and
my children and what I was doing with them. Our home lessons
were soothing for the children in the times of emotional turmoil of
leaving friends and beloved teachers, and it helped bring us even
closer as a family. Teach and review what they have learnt with
them. If you are unsure where to start, then scour Youtube videos,
and other online resources for interactive activities to get going.
So what will you need?

1. A name
What works best for us is to have a formalised study time with
my six year old and we call it “Amma Beti School” (Mother and
Daughter School). She loves it as it’s something special between
her and me, and this gives your teaching a personal touch.

2. A place and supplies
If you can fix a place where you will conduct the lessons, then
great! Otherwise, improvising the place each time you sit to study
also adds that adventurous touch to the whole concept. If your
children love crafts and activities, stock up on craft supplies.

3. Understand your child
Understanding the manner in which your child enjoys learning is
worth every second spent in doing that. If he/she likes storytelling,
weave in more stories from the Qur’an, Seerah, history of Islam, the
companions, etc. If your child likes a more activity-based study,
then make paper boats and cut outs of Nuh u’s ark and the
animals, the tree in Jannah which Adam u was forbidden to eat
from, etc.

4. Go on field trips
Every school goes on field trips, so why shouldn’t your school go
too? I recently studied Surah Hijr, Ibrahim and Nahl. These surahs
make excellent themes for field trips, as Allah I talks about the
water cycle, milking the cows and the beautiful times of sunrise
and sunset. A trip to explore and find beehives becomes a must in
light of Surah An Nahl!

5. Engage their interest
A friend wanted to teach her 12-year-old daughter the tafseer of
the Qur’an, so invited all her daughter’s friends over and gifted
them folders, pens, etc. as a fun thing to do every Sunday. So now,
they happily dress up, meet, talk and when the “class” starts, listen,
discuss and learn. They have started asking to cover surahs that
they really want to learn about. Alhamdulillah, the Qur’an is starting
to enter their hearts.

6. Angels as learning buddies
Let your child know that they are in good company, angels gather
around us when we are discussing and learning about the deen
of Allah I, covering us with their wings, and that all the fish in
the sea are making du’a for us (Bukhari). This will give them much
needed encouragement and also a feeling of warmth and security
that right now they have Allah’s angels as their learning buddies.

7. Frequency and duration of classes
If you are planning formal lessons, then it is best to start with a
once a week, one hour class. Even the Messenger of Allah r didn’t
teach the companions more than three times a week. Keep the
lecturing time limited to 15-20 minutes, weaving in discussion,
quizzes, activities and worksheets.

8. Structure of the “study time”
Whether you teach your children yourself or you enrol them into
programmes and only review their learning with them, have a
structure to what you do. Start with the du’as related to knowledge
from the Qur’an and Sunnah and get into the habit of reciting
them when they sit down to study.

9. Resources
There are, masha Allah, many resources available on the internet.
One of my favourites is Use their worksheets and
templates. If you are unable to get printouts or downloads, then
use their ideas and create your own by using a pen and paper –
your mind is the best resource for you and your kids.

10. Consistency
The major pitfall we face when teaching Qur’an to our children
is losing our focus and consistency, especially when things get
overwhelming at home. Sometimes, we fall behind in our grocery
shopping, laundry, cleaning, or are just emotionally tired, and the
one thing that tends to end up being neglected is the Qur’an. But
don’t let this happen, it’s not worth it. Instead, be prepared. For
those low days, a prepared lesson plan or goal sheet comes in very
handy – you just have to pick up your plan book, see what needs
be done and get on with it without adding the worry of what to
do with your child.
Remember, you are the first, and in many ways the best, teacher
your child will ever have. Happy Qur’an time to you!

As appeared in the magazine SISTERS sept. 2013

Sana Gul is a happy homemaker and mother of two, with degrees in
engineering and a Masters in Business Administration.
She is currently pursuing her Diploma in Qur’anic Studies. She
writes regularly for and islamiclifestyle4u.

Nuh(as)–the plight of a father..

Nuh(as)--the plight of a father..

the plight of a father..

close your eyes and feel the pain,the grief, the desperation of nuh(as) as he tried to reason with his son and the waves came between them..

i cant.. i dont want to..i dont have the strength that Nuh(as) had..

This was the Prophet of Allah swt, His first Messenger to His creation.

and it happened to him.

it can happen to me too.. to you too..

make a dua for your children now, today, everyday of your life..

Rabbi ijAAalnee muqeemas salati wamin zurriyyatee
rabbana wtaqabbal duAAa

رَبِّ اجعَلنى مُقيمَ الصَّلوٰةِ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتى ۚ رَبَّنا وَتَقَبَّل دُعاءِ
O my Lord ! make me one who establishes regular prayer
and (also) from my offspring ,our Lord !
and accept my invocation Surah Ibrahim :40

may Allah swt make us and our generations to come from among His righteous servants ameen.