“Behind every successful deed , there is a pure intention”

“The reward of deeds depends upon the intentions and every person will get the reward according to what he has intended.” said the Messenger of Allah (s):Sahih Al Bukhari Book 1 Hadith 1.
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Imam Bukhari started compiling the “Sahih Al Bukhari” in Mecca and wanted to only include the most authentic Ahadith in it.
Before recording EVERY hadith he would take a ghusl(bath), and perform Salat-ul-istikhara (salat for seeking guidance from Allah subhana hu ta’aala).

Think.
Why did Allah subhana hu ta’aala want this hadith to be the first one?
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We make the “intention” for doing an action before actually doing it.
if the intention is to “please Allah subhana hu ta’aala” then the action we do, will have our best effort,accomplished the Prophetic way and without any riya (arrogance).

A Believer’s ultimate goal is to gain the Pleasure of Allah subhana hu ta,aala, in Every action he does.

So,check and correct your intention before doing any deed, specially ones done in public.
i checked and corrected mine before posting this.
May Allah subhana hu ta’aala help us always in checking and correcting our niyah and forgive us if we fail or forget ,ameen

Love Each Other for the Sake of Allah subhana hu ta’aala — Part 2

Love Each other for Allah’s sake.Image

It’s easier said than done. Right?

No matter how hard we try, we still fail to love some people. All our efforts seem to fall flat. So, we either give up trying or are about to give up or desperately seeking a way to make it work. Sometimes these are really crucial relations like spouses, in laws, relatives and sometimes not so crucial but nevertheless important because of their influence in our daily lives like coworkers, neighbors, roommates.

Yet we witness certain relations that withstand the trials of our nafs, distance and time. Onslaughts of negative emotions like envy, ego is not able to even put a crack in the solid foundations of the relationship. We also witness a sudden surge of love and tenderness for people around us whom we could never imagine liking again.

How does that happen? Who makes us succeed and fail at times?

And (moreover) He has put affection between their hearts: not if you had spent all that is in the earth, could you have produced that affection, but Allah has done it: for He is Exalted in might, Wise.”[8:63]

“ .. And He put love and mercy between your hearts. Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.[Surah Rum:21]

 

 

So, now we know who makes it all possible. But the question still remains. Why do we fail?

A mention of the above ayat[8:63] by my sister in law, a student of the Quran and a heart searching discussion with one of my dearest friends led me to understand why we fail and what we can do to improve our chances of success, as who doesn’t want Allah subhana hu ‘taala ‘s shade on the day when there will be no other?

1.Check your intentions—why do you really want to love this person? Do you want to love your husband, because you truly believe that Allah subhana hu ‘taala has chosen the best one for you? Why do you want to love your mother in law though she sometimes does point out your mistakes? Do you want to love her to please your husband or Allah subhana hu ‘taala? Once the truthful answers to all the questions you put to yourself are Allah subhana hu ‘taala, then it’s time for you to move to next step. Else stop right there and ask Allah subhana hu ‘taala to guide you towards Him and then proceed to the next step.

 

2.Make Dua—Dua is the weapon of a believer. It is the only thing that always works. So, close your eyes open your heart and feel the depth of words of the du’a the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings upon him) taught us.

 

“O Allah!! Put affection amongst our hearts, reform our matters within us, guide us to the path of peace, save us from the darkness towards light, save us from all kinds of obscenity; the apparent as well as the hidden; bless our hearing, our sight, our hearts, our spouses and our children, turn in mercy towards us. Indeed You are the One who greatly accepts repentance, most Merciful. Make us the ones most grateful for Your bounties so we may compete with one another n Praising You for these (bounties) and complete these (bounties) for us.

 The Arabic version is here.

  3. And now it’s time to start the process again.

 May Allah subhana hu ‘taala grant you success and grant us all His shade on the day when there will be none except His.

 

 

 

 

 

Fun Activities For Kids!!

Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim !

 

List of Activities you can do with your kids

 

Story of Prophet Mohammed (swt) :

 

How he (sws) was protected by Allah (swt) from enemies of Islam  in  cave (the spider web and the dove nest)

 After telling the story within 10-15 mins you involve the kids making a craft as I remember a saying” Tell me and I forget, Involve me and I remember”

 

MAKING A Spider: Age : 5+

 Materials you need

  1. PomPoms
  2. Pipe cleaners
  3. Scissor
  4. Staple
  5. Wiggly eyes
  6. glue

Cut 4 pipe cleaner in halves and staple all of them (kids may need help) to a pompom making the spider’s body and 8 legs

Glue 2 wiggly eyes on top of the pompom making a complete spider

And ask the kids to draw a spider web in black construction paper to give look like a spiderweb on the cave and let the kids put the spider on that drawing and ask them to tell the story afterwards.

 

Making a Dove Nest:

You Need:

  1. White play dough
  2. black or brown yarns
  3. Scissor
  4. Paper bowl or paper plate

Cut a handful of yarn (1 ft length) and arrange those into a nest shape and place into a paper bowl or plate. Make 4 egg shapes molding play dough and keep those on the nest.

 

 

  • Musical Pillow: age 4+

         You need

  1. A pillow
  2. Islamic song on your cell phone ( instead of music)
  3. Copy paper 1-2 depending upon how many kids
  4. A small basket or bowl
  5. Board and board marker

For 12 kids

Cut the blank paper into 12 equal pieces and write on them

( Say the 1st Kalima, Say the Shahadah, say the meaning of the kalima, say the meaning of the shahadah,say your favorite short surah or meaning of your favorite surah, write Allah in Arabic, write Mohammed sws in Arabic….and so on)

 

Ask the kids to sit in a circle and play the song and ask the kids to pass the pillow …when song is stopped see which kid is holding the pillow ask him/her to pick a paper from the bowl , whatever is written on the paper he/she have to do that if not he/she is out of the game……while playing and pausing the song make sure every child gets a chance to pick a paper and say pr write something…this way they review and learn in a fun way.

 

Stick  the Tail:

You need

  1. A foam board
  2. Marker
  3. Construction paper
  4. Scissor
  5. Tape
  6. Thumb nail
  7. Scarf or a piece of cloth for blind fold
  8. A bowl with prewritten paper pieces( Smile as its sunnah, show how to slep in a sunnah way, make your own list of follow sunnah )
  9. A basket with candies or small prizes

Draw a cat with the marker on the foam board , draw a tail for the cat in a construction paper and tape it and keep it in a side

           Ask each child to come and stick the tail of the cat on the board with blind fold, if the child can do it he/she gets to pick any candy/ prize from the bowl, if not then ask the child to pick a paper piece and do whatever is written on it…if the child does it give him/her a prize.

               

            

 

99 Names of Allah swt: age 6+

Mix and Match

Time: 20 mins

 

You need:

  1. Beads of different colors (99 /child)
  2. Names of Allah(swt) print outs ( 5-10 attributes with meaning)
  3. Scirror
  4. Cell phone or Computer to play 99 names of Allah swt song

Play the 99 names of Allah swt song in youtube. Then ask them how many attributes Allah swt has.

Then make it clear to them that Allah swt is only one 99 beautiful names.

 

Ask the kids to take make 9 rows of 11 beads in each

who completes first wins

 

Then cut the (5-10) names , separate the meanings

call the kids one after one and ask them to find out a name with matching card which have meaning …who matches all wins.

 

Wall Hangings (Attributes of Allah swt):

Time: 30-45 mins

Age: 3+

This activity is suitable for teaching attributes of Allah swt to preschoolers who does not know reading, they can learn from pictures.

You need:

  1. Colorful (post it size) papers
  2. scissor/craft scissor
  3. glue
  4. Marker
  5. Pipe cleaner
  6. Printouts of Al -Wadud( The Loving one), As-Salam (The Peaceful) and Al-Malik (The King) …(6 +yrkids can write by themselves so they do not need the printouts.)
  7. Foam stickers(heart shape)
  8. Foam crown

 

For Al-Wadud which means The Loving One

Sat the Arabic name and then say the meaning

Then draw a heart on the paper and ask them to cut out side the edge

let them gule the word Al- Wadud in a different piece of paper then ask them to glue the heart shape under it and now stick the meaning of it on the heart and let them decorate it with foam heart stickers. Now make a small hole on top the paper with pipe cleaner and twist it so that it does not drop and also twist on the top of the pipe cleaner making a hole to hang on wall.

 

For As-Salam which means The all Peaceful: Same as avobe just make a peace sign in stead of Heart shape.

 

For Al- Malik which means The King:

 

Take a Foam Crown and glue the word Al- Malik and stick the word The King under it and put a pipe cleaner through the crown and twist it and also twist the top part of the pipe cleaner to make a hope to hang on wall.

 

When done you can hang them as single wall hanging or you can take a ribbon and hang all threetogether and then hang as a set.

 

 

 

 

How to keep my heart Guided

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In the Name of Allah the Most Merciful and the Most Beneficent

Let me tell you something about the Bani Israel.

They were terribly oppressed by Fir ‘on for years and then Allah swt sent Musa (as) as the Messenger of Allah swt to free them from their oppression. But before they could get their freedom, they had to endure terrible hardships as Fir ‘on refused to accept the clear proofs that Musa (as) showed him to prove that he was indeed the Messenger of the Lord of the Worlds. He ordered all the sons of the Bani Israel to be killed and their women kept alive. But through all this they were very patient and sought the help of Allah swt and Allah swt rewarded them by not only letting them escape Fir ‘on but also by watching him drown in the same sea that had been parted specially for them.

But as time passed and they got settled in their new life, they forgot Allah swt again and instead asked Musa (as) to make an idol for them to worship. [ Al Ar’aaf 102:156]

Allah swt has chosen to tell us about this particular incident out of the history of mankind for us to take a lesson.

For us to analyze are we doing the same?

Think .Have you ever been struck by a hardship in your life in which the ‘now” seems unbearable and the future scary if the hardship continues and you think, “When will this end”?

The loss of a job, the news of a life threatening illness or maybe the wait for a result of a medical test?  Or your child who gets lost in the market place? And as the trial affects you, you look around you and seek Allah’s help and do Sabr and wait for the storm clouds to pass over from your life.

And then Alhamdulillah, Allah swt fulfills His promise and rewards you with a new job, or a treatment that makes you better or a test result which says everything is alright with you or your child waiting for you at the customer service.

And as you weep with joy and thankfulness to Allah swt, you make a solemn promise to remember Allah swt and stay on His path.

The first few days or maybe weeks that follow are full of a renewed faith and a regular routine of Salah and Quran.

But then as time passes and things start settling again in the old familiar routine, you start slipping and the acts of ibaadat lack the energy and become few.

This is where we have to stop and instead of becoming like the Bani Israel, we need to turn towards Allah swt again.

Let’s see how:

  1. Make Dua Every day

Rabbana la tuzigh quloobana ba’da idh hadaytana wa hab lana milladunka rahmah innaka antal Wahhab

Our Lord! (they say), Let not our hearts deviate now after Thou hast guided us, but grant us mercy from Thine own Presence; for Thou art the Grantor of bounties without measure
[3:8]

2. Plan your day around Salah— Make Salah the high Point of your day around which you plan your activities and not the other way round.” I will pray fajr and my morning adhkar and then I will make my tea and read my quran and then get the breakfast going.” Some times zuhr is at 1 pm, and the kids come at 1:30 pm, so plan“I will pray zuhr and then lay the table for lunch for my kids”

3. Read the Duas for Morning and Evening – get the book with these duas or make a document with all the duas and keep it where you pray or somewhere handy and when you stand up for Salah , keep them next to you so that you don’t forget. Play them in your house in the mornings. In this manner everyone can recite them and learn them too.

And remember your lord within yourself humbly and fearing and in a voice not loud in the morning and the evening and be not of the heedless ones. [Al Araaf  205]

        Link for YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FZuW14mUNb4

4. Alone Time is Dhikr Time

The prophet (peace and blessings upon him) said “Allah swt has angels roaming the roads to find the people of Zikr, i.e those who say La illaha illalah and similar expressions and then they find a group of people reciting zikr , they call each other and encompass them in layers until the first heaven—the location of which is in Allah’s knowledge (i.e to say , an unlimited number of angels are going to be over that group)—Bukhari and Muslim

One of the best times to do zikr is when you are alone. While you are cooking, or cleaning or driving or waiting in a queue or even while you are exercising. You can put on a cd or use an mp3 or just open your laptop and play your dhikrs on that. Do istighfar a lot. Seeking forgiveness from Allah swt for the sins we committed knowingly and unknowingly cleanse the heart and open it to accept the guidance from Allah swt.

5. Seek knowledge to do it better—analyze your life. There are many roles that we play in our daily life. The most important being , Slave of Allah swt, then as a mother, a wife, a daughter, a daughter in law, neighbor, sister, grandmother, mother in law friend, a member of the ummah. Look into the Quran and Sunnah and find out the best manner in which you can fulfill each of these responsibilities. Aim to be a better Muslim in each role that you play in your life.

ProductiveMuslim.com has some excellent articles on such various topics.

6.Learn a new dua :- learn new duas every few days. Duas from the Quran and Duas from the Sunnah. Incorporate the Quranic Duas in your Salah once you have memorized them. This will also help in increasing the khushoo in salah inshallah.

 In the end ,I would like to leave you these words of  Allah swt.

 I am as My servant thinks I am. I am with him when he makes mention of Me.

If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself; and
if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an
assembly better than it. And if he draws near to Me an arm’s length, I draw
near to him a fathom’s length. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him at
speed
.

 

May Allah swt always be with you. ameen

The Mezan–The Scales

The Mezan—The Scales

…And the weighing on that day (Day of Resurrection) will be the true (weighing). Al Araf 8

This event will definitely happen as Allah swt says “its Haqq”—the truth, and it will be accurate to the last milligram!!

So let’s learn about it and prepare ourselves for it , inshallah!!:–

  • What will be weighed?
  • How will it be weighed?
  • The results!!
  • The deeds which carry Bonus Points!!.
  • The  Deed Wasters!!
  1. What will be weighed:–
  • Each and every action will be weighed: —From the most insignificant to the most prominent.

And if there be the weight of a mustard seed, We will bring it. And Sufficient are We as Reckoners. An Anbiya 47

  • We will be weighed.

The Prophet (s) said, “On the Day of Resurrection, a fat man will be brought forth, but he will not weigh with Allah equal to the wing of a mosquito). And on the Day of Resurrection, We shall assign no weight for them) 18:105.

Also, the Prophet said about `Abdullah bin Mas`ud, “Do you wonder at the thinness of his legs By He in Whose Hand is my soul! They are heavier on the Balance than (Mount) Uhud.” –Tafsir Ibn Kathir

  1. 2.     How will it be weighed?

The Book of Records,the scrolls with our deeds written in it, will be placed on the scales.

Allah will give our deeds physical weight on the Day of Resurrection It is recorded in the Sahih that Al-Baqarah (chapter 2) and Al `Imran (chapter 3) will come on the Day of Resurrection in the shape of two clouds, or two objects that provide shade, or two lined groups of birds.

It is also recorded in the Sahih that the Qur’an will come to its companion (who used to recite and preserve it) in the shape of a pale-faced young man. He will ask (the young man), “Who are you” He will reply, “I am the Qur’an, who made you stay up sleeplessly at night and caused you thirst in the day.”

Subhanallah !!

‘There is a hadith that Al-Bara’ narrated about the questioning in the grave that states, “A young man with fair color and good scent will come to the believer, who will ask, `Who are you’ He will reply, `I am your good deeds’).

The Prophet mentioned the opposite in the case of the disbeliever and the hypocrite.

May Allah swt not make us one of those 🙂 !! ameen

  1. 3.   The Results!!
  • The Good Result:  those whose scale with the good deeds is heavy. J

So as for those whose scale (of good deeds) will be heavy, they will be the successful (by entering Paradise). Al Araf 8

  • The Bad result: those whose scale with the bad deeds is heavy.

And as for those whose scale will be light, they are those who will lose their ownselves (by entering Hell) because they denied and rejected Our Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.).  Al Araf 9

And Allah swt is Very Accurate.

And We shall set up the Balances of justice on the Day of Resurrection, then none will be dealt with unjustly in anything. And if there be the weight of a mustard seed, We will bring it. And Sufficient are We to take account 21:47

And Allah swt is the Al Adl (the Just)

Surely, Allah wrongs not even the weight of a speck of dust, but if there is any good (done), He doubles it, and gives from Him a great reward. 4:40

4.     The deeds that carry Bonus Points!!

Throughout the Quran, we are time and again shown how merciful Allah swt is.!!

Allah swt knows that insaan is weak and tends to forget, so gives us bonus points for certain deeds, when done with sincerity will inshallah tip the scales in our favor!!

  • Firm belief in Allah swt:

A Hadith states that a man will be brought forth and ninety-nine scrolls containing errors and sins will be placed on one side of the balance each as long as the sight can reach. He will then be brought a card on which `La ilaha illallah’ will be written. He will say, “O Lord! What would this card weigh against these scrollsAllah will say, “You will not be wronged.” So the card will be placed on the other side of the Balance, and as the Messenger of Allah said, (Behold! The (ninety-nine) scrolls will go up, as the card becomes heavier.) At-Tirmidhi recorded similar wording for this Hadith and said that it is authentic.

  • Good  Manners–Akhlaq

 

Abu Darda’ reported that the Prophet of Allah, upon him be peace, said, “Nothing is weightier on the Scale of Deeds than one’s good manners.” Sahih Bukhari , Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi with others..

Being kind and generous to one’s family, relatives, neighbors, friends gains us Big Points!!

  • Remembering Allah swt

The prophet (s) said ,  “There are) two words which are dear to the Beneficent (Allah) and very light (easy) for the tongue (to say), but very heavy in weight in the balance. They are: Subhan Allah wa-bi hamdihi and Subhan Allah Al-‘Adheem.” [Bukhaari, 9/93/652].”

 

  • Any action done feesabillilah ( in the way of Allah)!!

 

The Prophet(s) said , ´.. as for the one for whom it (a horse) is a source of reward, he is one who keeps his horse for the sake of Jihad( struggle for Allah) for Allah” cause;he ties it with a long rope on a pasture or in a garden. So whatever its rope allows it to eat, will be regarded as good reward able deeds (for its owner). And if it breaks off its rope and jumps over one or two hillocks, even its dung will be considered amongst his good deeds. And if it passes a river and drinks water from it that will be considered as good deeds for its benefit, even if he has no intention of watering it… “ Sahih Bukhari.

Can you imagine, the time you spend on facebook can be counted as good deeds if you think of reading and sharing any good information that comes your way?

The  Deed Wasters!!

Deeds done with even a tiny seed of riya (show off), hasad (jealousy) are wasted.

Any deed done for the gain of this dunya is a Waster!!

One must always make one’s intention to please Allah swt and say Bismillah before starting any task (yes, even before signing into an email account or any social networking site!!  J

 

On that note, I end here with a dua that may Allah swt count each second that you spent in reading this as a Good Deed that weighs heavily in The Mezan and accept all your good deeds, amen.

Please share it forward and make it a Sadaqa e Jaria for Yourself

Jazzak Allahu Khairan Kaseera!!

Love each other for the sake of Allah swt: a Point Plus Program

Abû Hurayrah relates that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Allah will ask on the Day of Judgment: ‘Where are those who loved each other for the sake of My glory? Today, – on a day when there is no shade but mine – I shall shade them with My shade.” [Sahîh Muslim (2566)] 

“I love you for the sake of Allah”. This phrase has been used by me and by many others so many times. I recently attended a halaqa also on this topic and what struck me was the word “love”.

Something was amiss and I was very restless.

Yes I love a lot of people, but I do that because they are my family; blood, in law or through circumstances.

But the Messenger of Allah (s) in his statement does not make any exceptions. He (s) talks only about “loving each other for the sake of Allah”.

I was so confused when I looked around me and saw people using this statement yet exhibiting coldness in emotion, jealousy, betrayal in their attitude.

And then I looked up the word in the dictionary, as I think we sometimes really forget the “meaning” of the word we speak so casually.

Love means to have really strong feelings of affection for someone and to really like someone.

🙂

Now a different question perplexed me. Ok Alhamdulillah I really love some people, but here as I said earlier the Messenger of Allah (s) makes no exception.

So how to really love someone who hurt or betrayed me?!!!! And I like you desperately want that shade of Allah’s!!

After all the hurt and the discussion which unfortunately is labeled under the tag ” “gheebat”  in our Book Of Deeds settles down and the remorse sets in  i look for the answer to “how to truly love a person no matter what for the sake of Allah swt” and and then  alhamdullilah I came upon a simple Point Plus Program Guide for Truly Loving a Person for the Sake of Allah:

  1. Make the intention: no matter what I will “love “ this person for the sake of Allah swt as He wants me to  and I desperately want that shade on the day when there will be no shade but His.
  1. Acknowledge the struggle: None of us is perfect. Not me. Not you. Each day is an intense struggle with the nafs and this dunya to live life the way Allah wants us to live. Each one of us has different areas of weakness and strengths. Acknowledge the struggle and remember we are all “sisters (or brothers) in arms” against the shaitan.
  1. Identify the Good Areas: each one of us has some “good areas”. Something about a person that is good and we like. Identify it.
  1. Focus on it: once we have identified the good areas, focus on them alone. You must have seen a horse with the blinders around its eyes, to make it look only straight ahead. Become like that horse. Focus only on the good areas. Not easy. I agree but if done for the sake of Allah, then eventually it does become easy. Inshallah!!
  1. Seek refuge from the shaitan: something negative will happen to derail us. A nasty comment, a cold look, someone telling us about the bad the other person has said or done to us.  Seek refuge from Allah. Only He can help and anyways we are doing it only for His sake. So He will help us inshallah. And start at Point No 1 again : acknowledge the struggle a person makes.
  1. 6.     Remember no one is Perfect. Not you. Not me:  we are all struggling in this dunya for a better Akhirah. None of us is perfect and if we don’t help each other by being forgiving and understanding and sympathy,  then who will?

 

So lets help each other “love each other for the sake of Allah and be shaded by His shade on the day when there will be no shade but His.